New Year, New Me

by Stephon Thomas

 

The holidays are coming up, and you know what that means: New Year’s expectations. Behind all the layers of confetti and fireworks in the sky lies many people's thoughts of trying to be a new person for the New Year. The question that I have for all of this nonsense is when does the popular saying “New Year New me” begin to lose meaning? Although the New Year brings new opportunities and memories, it doesn’t necessarily mean you have to change yourself into a you “2.0” of some sort.  The reality is that everyone will be back to their old habits by January. In fact, January 17 is known as ‘ditch your new year’s resolutions’ day. Let's be honest, the old you is the last person you ought to trust when it comes to designing a New You.

An article, published by Oliver Burkeman, on the guardian.com said it best when he said “Consider the facts. For a start, Old You doesn’t currently do any of the things he or she claims will make the New You happy and fulfilled. (Would you trust a personal trainer who chain-smoked through your sessions and never worked out? Exactly.)  Moreover, old you doesn’t even seem to like himself or herself that much, otherwise a makeover wouldn’t be on the agenda. Clearly, Old You has some issues. Lastly, Old You probably has a long track record of trying and failing to implement change – and yet you’re going to trust this shifty character with your future? That’s like taking your car to a mechanic who botches the repair job almost every time.” I guess you could say old habits die hard.

I also found a comment, on the same website in fact, from a man under the username sirchutneyroars who states, “Setting resolutions for 2016 is simply a way of creating unwanted stress and disappointment. We allow ourselves to start each New Year with a clean slate. We tell ourselves we are going to succeed. This year will be different. But resolutions tend to be dreams. These dreams lull you into believing that if you create a plan, then your life will change for the better. But we all know that life gets in the way of plans. The resolutions we make, we break every year, usually minutes after writing them down. Problems occur, we get distracted, fall ill, or some other panic occurs. It becomes difficult to stick to a predefined plan for a few days, never mind 12 months. It is at this point that we think we’ve failed and then we give up. By February any hope of achieving what we set out to achieve at the start of the year is a distant memory.”

Although it's best to make your next move your best move, your next move should not be one that can change who you are all because the year changes itself. When the clock strikes midnight and the year changes, that doesn't mean you have to. How does this sound, “New Year, same you”? I think it has a nice ring to it.